Related To Regression Hypnotherapy
learns the proper time and place for direct suggestion hypnosis
and Regression Hypnosis.
By Randy Shaw; CHt.
Being new to regression hypnosis work in March of 2004 (I had
done some hypnotism sessions- part time for 6 months), the report/story
below was a test for me, right from the start. And I learned
the hard way, by not following my intuition.
One of my very first clients that the Universe sent to me for
regression hypnosis work was a woman, 28, who was very angry,
frustrated with life, and said she was overweight. On the intake
interview she even told me that she had seriously thought about
I had a hard time believing that she was so drained of hope that
she would really kill herself. The reason is that, as I met in
at the office I was actually short of breath, she was and is,
absolutely beautiful. And her aura, (I feel auras), was radiant
But as the hypnosis pretalk interview proceeded I did indeed
feel some very strong frustration with her life. I was amazed
that she felt she was overweight because she was breath-takingly
beautiful to my eyes, and surely not even 10 lbs overweight.
According to her she could not loose that last 20 pounds and
it was making her nuts and depressed.
I gave her my regression hypnosis pretalk, which was pretty basic
back then, but full of my enthusiasm for it because of my personal
We had great rapport and I decided to give her an "ego strengthening"
direct suggestion Hypnosis session, instead of doing some regression
hypnosis work. She was a little intimidating to me and I chickened
out doing the regression work that I knew she needed. She was
all for going back and finding crap that makes her feel lousy
now, at age 28. I soon wished I had just done regression hypnosis
The hypnosis script was an altered one of the ego strengthening
hypnosis script that is so popular. I thought I was doing her
a favor in just helping her feel good about herself in this first
She called me up 3 days later, which surprised me, and said that
she was really going crazy because "everything" she
did seemed to fall apart or get messed up. She asked if the hypnosis
did this to her.
I wanted to say, "no way, what I did TO you was a good thing,"
but I didn't. I said that I really didn't know. I felt really
bad because I was supposed to be helping her, but it sounded
like her life got worse after the session.
A few hours later the light went on in my head. It was something
that Stephen Parkhill said in his Hypnosis Regression training
videos. Not sure I can completely quote him word-perfect, but
he warned to not give direct suggestions that will make the subconscious
mind prove who's in charge. He also said something about not
giving (yea team!, as he says) direct suggestions, that someone
will love themselves, without first understanding what love means
to that person in their subconscious mind.
That was my wake up call. My intention was to do this woman some
good (do gooder...) by telling her to love herself more this
week than she had in years, "love yourself, blah, blah,
I had to sit on that until the next hypnosis session and it hurt
knowing that I probably caused her more problems instead of healing
anything. She even said in the phone call, "I've made so
many mistakes this week that my boss looks like he might fire
me." I felt terrible. But that's part of becoming a master
of anything, isn't it?
On the next session we did hypnosis regression and she regressed
to some very, very strong scenes of anger toward dad. We spent
most of the session releasing her anger in one event. It was
jam packed! (Now, many years later I know her SM was using this
event to discharge a lot of other problem feelings from events
with dad.) She hit my pillow with complete abandon.
Now the interesting thing was that I remembered her telling me
in the first session that she HATED her father, for a lot of
reasons I don't have space to write here. So it was not a surprise
to me that she spend all her energy on "giving it back to
you (dad)" in that session. After it was over she looked
like she had let go of 100 pounds of junk. Physically exhausted
but radiating with energy and peace in her body and on her face.
Yes, we got forgiveness.
Next Hypnosis session she comes in and I ask her how this past
week went. She started her report with all the negatives that
still bother her. Well, heck, I'm looking for something good!
Then she said, "Oh I went to my parents for dinner..."
I raised my ears and my eyebrows...
She let it drop. I didn't. I said, "how long were you at
your parent's house?" "Oh, about 3 or 4 hours."
ZOOOOM! It flew over her radar with no indication that this was
I said, "hmmm, 3 or 4 hours... with your dad? How did that
go?" She started talking, but then changed... "Oh yeah!"
The light went on in her mind - "I didn't kill him."
I pointed out that the work we did in her last session made some
significant changes in her feelings. She looked at me with a
funny face, like, "wow, it really did." No way before
the last session could she have spent a comfortable evening at
... dad's house.
I'll write about this woman in some other files because she was
an amazing first client, one I'm sure God and the Universe sent
to me for my baptism by fire.
Notice the results from the first session which was my chickening
out and giving direct suggestion hypnosis, and her second session
where she went to battle with dad in some hypnosis regressions.
This client, what she taught me, ultimately shaped my current
philosophy about how I do first (Hypnosis) sessions, which is
(now :-) very successful and rewarding.
Yes I do Direct Suggestion hypnosis in first sessions, but only
after I help them obtain some significant releases.
- Don't paint over dirty surfaces ;-)
Randy Shaw, C.Ht.
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